Jenn HollowellLiar, Liar Pants on Fire!
October 7th 2008 12:13
The entire dynamic of our household is changing daily. Our children are getting older and wising up to the fact that lying will:
· Help them avoid punishment
· Help them get what they want
· Make them feel like they’re better than the other kids
I know this is normal childhood development, but it still has me concerned enough to research the topic. Last night I called my nephew on a number of “white lies,” which he was telling in order to get his way. (i.e. The lie: My Algebra teacher said she wants me to stay after school tomorrow. The truth: I want to go to a soccer game, but I know you’ll say no because I’m behind on my school work.)
I don’t have a lot of tolerance for lying for a number of reasons, particularly when it is obvious and the person is playing me for a fool. (i.e. I have a terminal illness and have six months to live . . . says the perfectly healthy person two years ago . . . ) Here are some links I found to help parents with children in this area:
· Lying
· A Little Fib or a Big Fat Lie? Teaching Kids Honesty
· Children Who Lie: Thoughts on What Parents Should Do
· Teen Dishonesty: Adolescent Development
This area of personal growth and development, to me, is very tricky. The last thing any parent wants to do is label their child as a liar. Let’s face it, this label has a negative connotation and will rip their self-esteem to shreds. This is why I thought it was important to really research the matter and guide my children from becoming habitual liars in a healthy manner.
What are your experiences with children and dishonesty? Do you have issues with lying becoming a habit in your household?
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