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There was an Old Woman...

July 1st 2009 01:00
Do you know the old woman who lived in a shoe? The one who whipped her children soundly and sent them to bed after a dinner of broth and no bread? Some days, that is exactly the way that I feel.

I've been writing this blog for a few weeks and I think I should introduce everyone in my little band of hostages to fate.

First is Tallulah, my 16 year old daughter. She likes playing the flute, dancing and her cell phone. I call her Tallulah because she has a flair for the dramatic and reminds me of the actress Tallulah Bankhead. She's a good girl but she is every bit a teenager. Read into that what you will.


Next is Gertrude, who is 13. She is artsy, wants to be a cartoonist and is my main competition for the computer. She spends gobs of time on youtube.

Once in a while you will hear me refer to Frick and Frack. These are my sister's children who are 5 and 7. Frick is a little boy with a big brain. Sometimes we call him Monk, after the series on USA network. Frack is also known to me as "Crazy monkey girl" she is silly and giggly as a 5 year old should be.

My sister, who is uber working mom has an infant daughter, Bella. She is a sweet and adorable 9 month old.

I use my sister's adventures as inspiration. She works outside the home, which presents different challenges. I worked for nine months after Tallulah was born and have been able to stay at home since.

There is also my mother, the Grandmama, who is best friend and wise counselor to us both.

Between us we have five children, two cats, five dogs and not enough time in a day.

And yes, we are both married, but Clueless Dad is another day's post.





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A Word About Fathers

June 23rd 2009 04:08
I know that Father's Day was yesterday but better late than never. I wanted to say a word about dads. Sometimes it seems that dads are not appreciated. On television they are often portrayed as well meaning buffoons who haven't a clue about their children. Television dads used to be the all knowing patriarchs, always available to guide their children and dole out discipline with a firm but fair hand. Lately, dads on television have become boorish slobs, more interested in drink than how their children are getting along.

The reality is somewhere between the two extremes. Real dads are involved with their children. They know how to soothe a crying infant and can deal with a cranky toddler. They've taken their children to day care and to the pediatrician. Real dads coach soccer and lead boy scout troops. They carry order forms for band fundraisers to work with them and help deliver dozens of boxes of girl scout cookies.


Real dads know how to mend a skinned knee and how to soothe a child who is heart broken over the death of a beloved pet. They can whip up a peanut butter sandwich and know that sometimes what's really needed is a trip to the ice cream shop.

A real dad is his son's first super hero and his daughter's first knight in shining armor. Even though he knows he has faults, in the eyes of his children he has none.

He understands that everything he does is being watched by adoring little eyes who will mimic him, sometimes at the worse moments. He will do anything to protect his children from harm. Most importantly, he knows that work will always be there but his children will only be children for a short time. That his most important work is his partnership with his child's mother, preparing them to take their place in society.

Even if real dads are not able to spend all the time they would like with their children, they realize that every second is precious. Because one day they will be gone.
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Play It Again, Mom

June 17th 2009 19:50
We've read "Goodnight Moon" so many times in our house I find myself reciting at odd times. We were on a jag of watching "The Little Mermaid" but I am happy to say that Ariel has been replaced by Belle and "Beauty and The Beast". I'm sure I'm not the only mom who finds herself having to read the same books, watch the same DVD, follow the same ritual of dinner, bath, story and bed EVERYDAY. With no deviation allowed. PERIOD.

Because deviation would set off a chorus of wails that frankly, I don't want to have to endure. The little tyrant umm, darling must have her rituals.

Rituals are important. Rituals help children develop a sense of trust in their world. They know what to expect and when to expect it. "First, we're gonna eat, then get a bath and a story and bed, right Mommy?" It starts when they are newborns and they learn that crying brings the appropriate comfort in the form of food, dry bottom, whatever. Children develop a sense of security from routine.

Repetition is another thing all together. After the 10th screening of "The Little Mermaid" I was rooting for Ursula, the sea witch. I considered hiding the DVD but decided to tough out her infatuation with the movie.

Evidently, repetition is important too. Repeating the story helps children gain self confidence. Knowing what comes next in the story and being right is very confidence boosting. And, like having a routine for eating, bath and bed, the routine of the story helps children feel safe.










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Not Me and I Don't Know

June 15th 2009 15:19
I have two extra children in my house, but they don't count as tax deductions. Both are very quiet, I hardly know they are there until I discover that the milk has been left out. Then, when I ask who forgot to put away the milk, the response is always the same. "Not me." and "I don't know". These twin trouble makers (try saying that fast!) create more havoc than an army of monkeys. And they do it without ever being seen.

I call them twins but really, "Not me" is a bit older. "Not me" started living with us when my oldest daughter was 3. One day, someone had colored a lovely picture of a kitty cat on the wall in the bedroom. When I asked who drew the picture she responded, "Not me, mommy


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Anatomy of a Tantrum

June 13th 2009 02:59
We've all seen it. An adorable, rosy cheeked toddler dissolved into a mound of quivering, screaming flesh while an embarrassed parent stands by watching helplessly. Meanwhile, every other adult in the vicinity watches as the parent tries in vain to stop the howling of the offended child. If the parent tries to pick up the child to remove them bodily, the child will either:
1. go completely rigid, making moving them difficult, or
2. go completely limp, making moving them difficult, or


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What is a Reality Mom?

June 11th 2009 16:20
I love the phrase "Reality Mom". Like "Reality TV", the phrase implies that we are going to be witness to LIFE in black and white, no shades of gray to hide the ugly truth. Yea right. Does anyone REALLY believe that those people on the television aren't aware of the camera EVERY SINGLE MINUTE? Sure. And those same folks are not being coached by some network toady off camera encouraging them to pander to the desire of the public to feed off of the drama and misfortune of others.

That's not what a Reality Mom is anyway. At least not to my understanding


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Surfing Through [In]sanity

December 19th 2008 12:31
So, it seems things around here are getting really ... interesting ... when it comes to our children. I don't know what other word to use, really. I've got my nephew who would rather be angry at the world than really look his problems in the eye and solve them, I've got my oldest son who has resorted to physical stances to solve his problem, I've got my middle step-daughter who would rather be a follower than cause problems, and I've got my youngest who thrives on causing problems in order to get attention.

Needless to say, all of this culminated in the span of two weeks causing things to be...interesting...around here. My fiancé and I are often left scratching our heads wondering what's going to happen next


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Ending the Experiment

October 17th 2008 12:12

After giving this some serious thought, I think I’m going to move on from this blog. Using orble.com was a fun experiment, but it didn’t provide the results I was hoping for. I’m happy to have participated in so many wonderful conversations, but that was really the only benefit to maintaining this blog.

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Never-ending To-Do Lists

October 15th 2008 14:18

This week has been one never-ending to-do list of chores, appointments, errands, housework, sporting events, parenting, and career responsibilities . . . and . . . it’s only Wednesday. I’m eager for this weekend, but I’m not really sure why because it is full of more lists of things that have to be finished (primarily: homework with my nephew and finishing my book).

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Short School Week

October 12th 2008 18:12

Despite it being a short school week (the kids have Monday off from school because it’s a holiday), that doesn’t mean there’s less to do.
· Monday: my nephew and I will be working on his homework all day while I work on my job-related duties. Then, the rest of the kids will be home by 5pm


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